When a man loves a woman ...

Someone seriously needs to tell the Spears girls how babies are made.

*In other romantic news, I'm reviewing the HP Photosmart 626 Printer over here and it gets a little racy.

Pics, portable containers and pancakes

Isn't it funny what things you find yourself coveting when you visit others? For example, on our recent jaunt to Rhode Island, I found myself quite envious of the amount of Tupperware my SIL owns. Like, she has more than one cool container that is made to hold half an onion or tomato, or any bulbous object for that matter. I mean, all I gots is the standard Ziploc set, which I replace every year or so for a whoppin' $6.99. But now I feel like I must expand my collection. And start eating tomatoes.

Also, she and my BIL had an impressive command on breakfast foods. In our short time there, they made us french toast, eggs benedict, crepes and aebleskivers (a real word, though I wasn't totally convinced until I googled it this morning after Cichelli mentioned it yesterday). They're round pancakes, which are made in a special pan - which THEY OWN! I mean, c'mon! How is a girl supposed to keep up?

I can only imagine the cool Tupperware container they put their 'skivers in.

Living with grandmas

This post is not about this.

This post had a lot of potential.

I was going to tell you about our 4th o’ Julio day fun including the beach and a barbecue, throw in a rant about paying $18 to go to a public beach and conclude with a stern warning to avoid “Because I Said So” at all costs.

But you already know better than to rent anything with Mandy Moore or Diane Keaton with her poofy skirts and neck wraps. (Why, dear Diane, why?)

And then I read this by my sis-in-law, which took my post in a whole different direction. Because it’s about having a 75-year-old roommate at college (and a little bit about breakfast).

And while I never had a 75-year-old roommate, I did have two 65-year-old mission companions. At the same time. And I do love breakfast.

As most of you know, I went to El Salvador on my LDS mission. While there I had some medical problems and accidental surgery. And lots of excruciating pain.

Eventually an ultimatum came from my mission president – “Go home or come to the office.”

The mission office. It’s a mythical place to most missionaries. Some covet it for its perks – air conditioning, little proselyting, rubbing elbows with the Prez himself. Some hate it for its perks.

I was in the latter group.

But going home was not an option so I agreed to transfer from my sweet life as regular missionary in Chalatenango to a temporary gig in Ilopango to San Salvador, where I would finish my mish as records secretary.

(Side note: These are real names of places in El Salvador – Ilopango, Soyapango, Chalatenango, Ilobasco, Chaparrastique, Zacatecaluca. Say them. It’s fun.)

Then he told me who my companion would be: A 65-year-old widow from California who would be the mission nurse.

I was actually thrilled. My mind filled with images of a sweet grandma who would bake me things and share precious life advice. We would develop a kinship despite our generation gap, I told myself.

Wrong.

She was a sweet, hippie grandma. She loved to bake. And she did have great life advice to impart. She just didn’t share it with me. In fact, she hardly spoke to me. Despite my efforts to be charming and engaging, she did not like me. Dare I say, she hated me.

I tried to be soft, “Golly gee, I may have lived here for over a year, but you’re my elder so whatever you say, goes.” I tried the hard approach, “Look, I know you don’t feel confident with your Spanish, but the only way to learn is to speak it so we’re going out to meet some locals.”

But nothing worked. Granola Grandma loved the males in the mission office. She loved her grandkids back home. But try as I might, she hated me.

Sometimes our age difference was the problem. Like the time I needed to make an Excel spreadsheet for a mission report, but the computer was busy so she said, “Just use a typewriter.” I tried to explain that a typewriter didn’t have the same capabilities, but she just looked at me and said, “You think you know everything.”

A few weeks into our companionship, the mission president dropped another bomb. We would be getting another companion in our apartment: A 65-year-old widow from Las Vegas who would be an additional mission nurse.

Oh, Granola Grandma was smug at first. Finally, someone who would understand her. Someone she could confide in. Someone she would like.

And I dreamed of a grandma who would actually like me.

But as fate would have it, we were both wrong.

Vegas Grandma was crazy. She had extensive plastic surgery – think Joan Rivers – and hadn’t really been active in the LDS Church for many years, which resulted in a lot of false doctrine. Also, she spoke fluent Mexican, which didn’t always translate in El Salvador. But that didn’t stop her from schooling us all in what she considered to be perfecto Spanish. (Like, “It’s not 'almuerzo,' it’s ‘el lunch-ay!’”)

Vegas Grandma ordered cable. (Not allowed to watch TV as a young missionary.) Vegas Grandma opted to share a room with Granola Grandma, relegating me to a room full of bunk beds all to myself. (Not supposed to sleep in separate rooms as a young missionary.) And sometimes I would wake up to an empty house - (not supposed to be alone as a young missionary) - because Vegas Grandma had grown weary of Granola G’s snoring and gone for a walk. And Granola left because was freaked out by Vegas, who slept with her eyes open. (Think of a really tight face lift that would render your eyelids so far from the bottom of your eyes as to make eye closure impossible.)

The two fought like cats – really, really mean rabid cats. They criticized each other’s clothes. They criticized each other’s nursing skills. They criticized each other’s takes on Medicaid.

And they wanted me to take sides.

Surprisingly, I wanted to side with Granola Grandma on most issues, even though her disdain for me hurt so badly. Because while Vegas didn’t love me, she certainly endured me. Or wanted to use me to form a Survivor-like alliance that would get Granola G kicked off the island … er, mission … forever.

One day, Vegas G was complaining about Granola G, to which I said, “Well, she hates me, you know.” To which Vegas said, “She really does.”

Turns out, Granola Grandma was listening from the other room. She came out and asked to speak with me. She said she felt bad that I sensed her hostility. And that the reason she didn’t like me was because she was JEALOUS.

Jealous? A 65-year-old woman with a life full of experience and a family was jealous of a 21-year-old girl? Yup. Turns out she envied my outgoing demeanor. She envied my knack with Spanish. She envied how many friends I had on the mission.

Of course, I told her she was ridiculous. That if anyone had reason to envy someone, it was me. That I was just a young child. That our lives could not be compared in any way. That I was so not worthy of her jealousy.

And while I’d like to say that conversation turned things around, it didn’t.

She was little nicer, but the extra animosity was channeled to Vegas Grandma instead. And you do NOT want to see two 65-year-old widows go at it. Trust me!

Finally, my time came to go home. And I did with a lot less sadness than if I’d been out in Chaparrastique with a young companion.

I have no idea how those two spent the next year alone in that house. Even our wife-beater neighbor was probably disturbed by all the fighting.

They never returned my letters.

They never answered my emails.

I’ll never know whether or not Vegas Grandma met some hot local to marry, as she dreamed of doing.

And I'll never know if Granola Grandma learned Spanish.

But I will tell you this – older people wake up really, really early. Like 4 a.m. For no reason. And they are very loud.

Let that be a warning to you.

See, this post was informative after all.